Shit!!.. I don’t know…
Well… I have my ideas.. about what it is and what it is not… There are lots of preconceived notions, but also a lot of confusion about this subject
As for me… I think I am some of these things.. and I aspire to some others…. but I definately am not all… I think I am a much more complex and more complete personality than that.
Women say they want a “sensitive man”… but then they leave him for a “bad boy”… til they get pissed off at how unreliable he is, and then they decide that they don’t know what they want…
Here is what I try to be.. a Sensitive Man who paves his own way, and is not encumbered by preconceived notions or expectations.
- One who listens well….
- … But also.. one who tells, when something needs to be told.
- One who can get by without a night of sex… now and then…
- … But will have that night of unbridled passion often.
- One who can cater to the needs of his woman…
- … But also, one who is his own man, and has or attracts a woman who caters to him.
- One who knows when to be “sensitive”…
- … But also, one knows when to “stand up” and be a man.
I won’t kid you.. I am a man… a “man with needs”… LOL… Hey!!.. Most people won’t say it like that, but I admit it… I do have needs!
Tomorrow… We’ll see what other people have said about “Sensitive Men”.
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OK… now.. one more thing for today… just a little about “sex”… I did say that this blog was in part about sex, didn’t I??!!??
There once was a teenager… a freshman in college… still a virgin… and all his college buddies were comparing notes about their “experience”. How much of it was true?.. How much was bragging?.. How much was just telling a story to avoid embarrassment?
“I learned about sex when I was growing up from Playboy Magazine, and from locker room conversations, and from trial and error. ” That was my story.
“Awkward trial and error!! Ha ha haaaa!” One guy laughed and snickered as he said it. All the other guys laughed, too.“You’re a virgin!!” They all chimed in, high-fiveing and pushing each other as they had discovered my secret- Yes, I was a virgin!!
“I bet you have never had sex, have you John? Right?” I suddenly felt so small!.. But, I also sensed that for some of the guys, their laugh was a nervous laugh! Maybe some of them were in the same boat as I was, but hadn’t yet been discovered. There were clearly many things they weren’t willing to admit about themselves.
SHIT!!… Sex is so good … so fantastic!!.. so incredible!!!.. when we have the knowledge and confidence and trust and experience and love and all the rest. Why is it so hard to get to that level? Worse==> Why do we make it so hard for ourselves and for each other to get to that level?…
Sometimes, I am amazed that any of us are able to “successfully” maneuver the sexual minefields from pre-teens to where we want to get to as confident, sensual, sensitive men?
What do you think?
